[-$35,638] Easing into the End of the Year and Happy Singles Day

Easing into the End of the Year

In my Packing for Guilt Trips post, I wrote about my dread of dealing with family turmoil this year because I wouldn’t be going home for the holidays. So eventually the conversation came up. I let them know I wasn’t flying back and…

…they were ok with it. Holy Hell. I was not expecting that reaction based on our earlier conversations. I was braced for push back, as I have dealt with it from them for many years past. It seems I gave them too little credit this time. I guess they realized that I have already been traveling a lot this year to spend time with them. If they had problems with my not going back for the holidays, they haven’t voiced any to me, at least not yet anyway.

So far, so good, but we’ll see.   

Happy [Belated] Single’s Day!

One is not the loneliest number!

No one knows for sure how the Chinese Singles Day started, but the most widely believed origin story has it beginning in the male dorms of Nanjing University in the early 1990s. A small group of 4 students wanted to do something to positively celebrate being single for a change. They selected November 11 as a day of parties and events to do just that. Over the years, it spread, fueled by social media, from the dorm, to the rest of the university, to other Chinese universities, and ultimately to the broader Chinese society and beyond.

November 11th, is symbolic because the number “1” resembles an individual who is alone. Thus, the date 11.11 represents four “ones”, four “individuals”, four “singles” coming together and celebrating their pride in being single.

Thanks to juggernaut Chinese retailers, the holiday has become the largest shopping day (both online and brick and mortar) in the world. In fact, Singles’ Day has become so popular that it now has been adopted in other countries in Asia and in Europe.

Will it come to the US? The date of 11.11 is close to and could clash with (or meld with)  Black Friday. Who knows? All bets are off when there is money to be made. It’s been getting more buzz on this side of the ocean lately.

Apart from the commerce angle, what about having a day to celebrate singles here in the US? Well, there is at least one American Singles Day group, inspired by Singles Day in China, that is working to bring similar recognition of singleness to the US (and are looking for volunteers).

Did you celebrate Singles Day this year?

I spent the whole day being very single and mostly content about life, so I’d say I celebrated it well, without even realizing it. 🙂



“Debtor’s prison is real, and opportunity cost is a bitch.” (DDSW Archives)


Hats off to everyone who exercised their civic duty and voted in the recent elections!

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  1. Maria · November 20, 2018

    That’s great your relatives were more understanding than you had thought. And your debt is now in the mid-thirties! Exciting!

    If you want to talk about it, how are you feeling about your job these days?


    • Double Debt Single Woman · November 24, 2018

      Hey, Maria. Thanks!

      My job has been somewhat more tolerable lately. Since I was removed as lead of ‘big high-profile project’, my work load has been rather light, so I’m not complaining there. I’m still working on the project, but in an ‘assistant’ capacity now, which I can tolerate. I hate that project, but it is a harbinger of things to come in this job. The writing is still on the wall. I’m still making plans.


  2. melooley · December 11, 2018

    Hey, we’re not going home for Christmas either, this year! It feels a little weird–I’ll be spending it with my husband and cats, and not my parents, but it’s going to be so much cheaper than traveling to another state!

    Millie K


  3. Viking Tantan · December 29, 2018

    Single’s day? I had no idea that was even a thing. That’s cool, though, since I’m all about rocking it single! In Korea, 11/11 is also a “holiday”, but it’s the opposite of Single’s Day. Here it’s called Pepero Day. Couples, and sometimes friends, will buy each other different pepero candies (chocolate covered pretzel sticks) and give them to each other. It’s kind of like a low key Valentines Day.

    It’s great that your family was more understanding about the holidays. I know that was causing you quite a bit of stress. Did you do anything special to celebrate or just relaxed?


    • Double Debt Single Woman · January 1, 2019

      There needs to be Singles Day as big as Valentines Day. I’m surprised companies haven’t tapped this lucrative market given how many people are single.
      For the holidays I just relaxed. By the end of the year I am flat broke.


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