[-$35,638] Easing into the End of the Year and Happy Singles Day

Easing into the End of the Year

In my Packing for Guilt Trips post, I wrote about my dread of dealing with family turmoil this year because I wouldn’t be going home for the holidays. So eventually the conversation came up. I let them know I wasn’t flying back and…

…they were ok with it. Holy Hell. I was not expecting that reaction based on our earlier conversations. I was braced for push back, as I have dealt with it from them for many years past. It seems I gave them too little credit this time. I guess they realized that I have already been traveling a lot this year to spend time with them. If they had problems with my not going back for the holidays, they haven’t voiced any to me, at least not yet anyway.

So far, so good, but we’ll see.    Read More

[-$38,300] Packing for Guilt Trips: Dealing with Debt and Family Expectations

 

It’s that time of year again, so yes, this post will be served extra ranty and with a large glass of whine.

This issue comes up for me every year, especially around the holiday season, but I’m also wondering how people deal year-round with having debt and pressure to meet family home-visit expectations.

When I was first starting out on my debt repayment journey, it was common for me to go home for the holidays once every other year. It was always a struggle to have that conversation and it came with guilt trips, of course, about my not visiting enough. Cross-country (coast to coast) plane tickets are expensive on a typical day. They become outrageously expensive ($1000+) around the holidays. My family never seems to care much about that.     Read More

[-$63,453] Not Halloween Anymore, but Still Scary

Seeing my balance creep HIGHER these past couple of weeks has been scarier than Halloween was.  Even more scary is that I am now carrying a credit card balance again! Yes, I know.  😦

For my 2018 trip, I have most of my big ticket expenses (airfare, hotel) booked already, hence the card balance. But there is more to go. First order of business is paying the card off, of course.

I started having some tooth discomfort and was back in a quandry about whether I should go back to my old dentist, even though you guys told me to ditch him and find a new dentist. Well, as it turns out, I discovered that my old dentist recently retired and sold his practice. The new person there doesn’t have any skill or accomplishments presented that make me want to stay. I feel free, like I’ve escaped a bad relationship. LoL. I don’t know why I stayed for so long. Read More